Never Been With an Uncircumcised Man
Since the majority of men in the US have been circumcised shortly after birth, there are lots of women (and men for that matter) who have never seen an uncircumcised guy, much less had them as their sexual partner. Recently, I was asked what it would be like to be with a guy who was “uncut” and if it would change the experience of sex. So what is the difference when it comes to getting it on with a guy who is uncut?
Having a foreskin is the natural state for a penis.
Boys are born with their foreskin intact covering the head of their penis, which serves to protect the head as well as the opening of the urethra. When a circumcision is performed, a good portion of the foreskin is cut so that the head of the penis stays exposed at all times. Usually, this is done a few days after the baby is born, but occasionally boys or men have to get circumcised later in life because they either get a severe infection, recurrent infections and inflammation, or have difficulty moving the foreskin up and back over the head of the penis. Since people are always more comfortable and accepting of what they know, sadly many people in the US consider an uncircumcised penis as strange, or even ugly. But an intact foreskin can be very sexy for both men and their partners, and there are actually many people who prefer it. Being uncut also helps preserve the sensitivity of the head and the frenulum since both are protected from rubbing against underwear all day long.
How does a foreskin affect sex?
Because the foreskin of some men pulls back over the head when he has an erection, it may appear to look just like a cut guy’s when he is erect, while other guys have a longer foreskin that still covers the head when erect. Guys that are uncut enjoy the movement of the foreskin over the head of the penis during sex or other sexual stimulation often without the need for any lubrication. Some uncircumcised men feel that they are more sensitive over their head because the foreskin keeps the glans and frenulum softer, without getting desensitized. This can make sex more intense for them. For women, they may experience less friction with penetration since more of the movement is between the foreskin and the shaft instead of the shaft and the vaginal wall. For some women, this is wonderful, while others are looking for how to increase the friction. Usually, pulling the foreskin down to the base helps move it out of the way so she can get the friction she’s looking for. All in all, being uncut can add extra options for stimulation, whether it’s vaginal, oral, manual, or otherwise.
Using a condom with an uncircumcised penis.
We’ve already spoken about the variations in foreskin from one guy to another, some men with foreskin naturally pulled back over their erection, whereas another man might have it still covering the head of the penis even when fully erect. Regardless, it can be a little challenging to learn how to put on a condom with the foreskin intact, but it just takes a little practice. It’s basically the same for an uncut guy as it is for a cut guy, except that he should pull the foreskin down his shaft so that the entire head of his penis is exposed first, then make sure he rolls the condom down all the way to the base of his erection. In any case, many uncircumcised men find that condoms with a little more space at the top will allow for more movement of skin/condom over his frenulum and head which helps intercourse feel more like it does without a condom.
Bottom line – don’t let any preconceived notions about circumcised vs. uncircumcised keep you from getting to know your partner and enjoying every last inch of him!
Dr. Castellanos is a psychiatrist specializing in sex therapy for over 25 years, including treatment with bio-identical hormones, and functional medicine consultations. You can follow her on Instagram at thesexmd, Facebook at The Sex MD, and X at @DrCastellanos.
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My husband was cut at birth (as was the norm back then) however upon researching it we’ve left our two sons intact as God made them. It’s not a defect & serves a purpose. It was never our choice to make & I hope North America wakes up to the facts of this unnecessary & unethical “procedure”.
Well said. Let’s end the gender-based violence and guarantee men and boys the right to enjoy sex with all of their genitals, as we have done for women! Females have no more prerogative to all of their genitals than men do to theirs.
Yes, the human penis! With a little teasing it may double in size and get hard and erect and it is covered with a double layer of mobile skin that lets it move in and out fluidly! What a brilliant design! No lube needed to function like a roller bearing and yet it seals in all of those natural lubricants. The natural penis smells good, tastes good, and stays naturally clean. The glans/head of the penis stays covered by the foreskin and is silky soft, smooth, dark purple, and obviously very sensitive. The penis is a neuro-mechanico-engineering wonder, a physical phenom, a work of art designed by the genius of millions of years of practical synergistic trial and error experience. And then, in the tip of the foreskin there’s this surprise – an incredible ring of concentrated fine-touch nerves called the Ridged Band. Only recently discovered, in 1991, the Ridged Band is the most sensitive and richly innervated part of a male human’s body! That explains why sophisticated women and gay men know that every stroke with a natural penis is better than an orgasm with a partial penis. All male circumcision victims have lost their Ridged Band. Most can still have sex and orgasm but need artificial lubricants to avoid painful damage from abrasions, cracking, and tearing of themselves and their partner. What will science discover next about the human penis?
Thank you for this positive article! Such a nice change from the usual anti-foreskin crap I am used to seeing in the US media. Well done on this mature, informative piece.
This is a good explanation in response to the question. I would recommend using language relating to the natural penis rather than the altered, since language constructs perceptions. You refer to the natural penis as “intact” in the beginning and it would be best if that term was used throughout rather than “uncut” or “uncircumcised” as if the latter was the normal state. Your description of the differences between intact and cut/circumcised in sexual experience clearly demonstrates the benefits of sex as nature intended. Thank you!
this informarion is obviously put together by someone that does not have much of a clue about the intact penis. a proper foreskin moves back and forth over the head of the penis during sex so yuo would have to staple it back to kerp the glans exposed constantly.yes one pls the foreskin back to fit a condom. however it wil tend to loosen around the glans which allows the foreskin to stimulate as normal. unlike with the cut male it acts as a barier not only to sperm and disease but also act as a barier to sensation the reason that frenulum is so sensitive in cut men is because that is an area that has all the erogenous nerves in it. In an intact penis these are then distributed further around the ring in the very end of the foreskin.. the fore skin also acts as a barier that prevents the escape of the womans natural lubricant aa it creates a natural seal. you should do yuor homework a bit better.
Overall this is a good article. It’s great to take away the mysterious stigma the foreskin has in America and appreciate the natural human body. Foreskin is fabulous!
One important note though: the term “uncircumcised” is falling out of favor. After all, I’m a woman and you wouldn’t call me “unmastectomized” would you? Many people are using the term “intact” or “whole”.
When you refer to a penis as “uncut” -vs- “intact” you give the implication that “cut” is the norm. As an “intact” male who escaped the surgeon’s genital mutilation I like to refer to all penises that were not the victim of genital mutilation as being “intact”. While we might be in the minority in this country, worldwide there are more like me. Circumcision in any form for any reason is genital mutilation. You wouldn’t do it to your daughter, so why would you do it to your son? If you’re an adult, cut off anything of YOUR OWN if you want to, but leave our baby boys alone. Remember, they will be sexually active adults far longer than they will be children. And, an intact penis’ foreskin brings a hell of a lot of pleasure to the owner and to the sex partner.
The proper word is “intact”.
Not “uncut”. Not “uncircumcised”. Just “intact”.