It’s true that so many people are socialized to feel that having sex during a woman’s menstrual cycle is dirty, unhealthy, or worse – wrong. Actually, intercourse during a woman’s period can be more intense both for her and for him. Here’s why.
Increased blood flow means more sensation.
During the time of a woman’s menstrual period, she has increased blood flow to her uterus and genitals, bringing increased awareness of her genitals throughout the day. Having her period makes her more sensitive to touch and more easily aroused (if she does not have negative ideas about her period). Increased circulation allows for faster lubrication for many women who find that their bodies are more sexually responsive during their period. This combination of awareness and increased blood flow can jump start arousal for women. Increased blood flow can also create a tighter feeling around the vaginal opening, creating a snugger feeling for him.
Period sex can lead to stronger orgasms.
During a woman’s period, there are contractions of the uterine muscle to replace the tissue of the endometrium. Many women find that orgasms during their period are enhanced because of the sensitivity of the uterus during this time. Of course, the more foreplay a woman gets, the more oxytocin she can produce, which adds to the mind-blowing intensity of these orgasms. During her period, all of her sex organs are buzzing with energy waiting to be released. In fact, there are women who prefer to have sex during their period because it gives them a pleasure they can’t get as easily at other times of the month.
Sex during your period may help shorten your periods.
With increased activity and contractions of orgasm, having sex during your period may actually help to make that time shorter. The uterus is able to clear it’s lining more efficiently so that the number of days of bleeding and/or spotting become less. Remember that sexual activity and orgasms help regulate your hormone balance as well, leading to regularity of periods – but this is regardless of what time of the month you have sex. Orgasms during your period can keep things moving along smoothly.
How does sex during your period affect cramps?
Unless you have a condition such as endometriosis, having sex during your period can actually decrease the pain of period cramps. Remember that during orgasm, there is a surge of endorphins that are natural pain relievers. In fact, researchers have found that at the moment of orgasm, a woman’s sensation of pain is decreased by 75% or more due to a combination of oxytocin and endorphins. Considering that you feel less pain and your periods are shorter, you can see how sex during your period could make your periods much more pleasurable.
Period sex requires a little planning.
Of course, a little preparation goes a long way into having sex on your period. Some couples find that it’s a great time for shower sex, making it much easier to clean up afterwards. If it is day 3 or 4 of your period, you might do fine having a towel underneath you specifically for that purpose to prevent staining bed sheets. I recommend getting a Fascinator sheet that you can drape over the bed, couch, or wherever. It allows you to play during your period without seeping through to the other side, then you just throw it in the wash afterwards. It’s a favorite for using coconut oil or silicone lube too!
Dr. Castellanos is a psychiatrist specializing in sex therapy, bio-identical hormones, and functional medicine consultation. You can follow her on Facebook at The Sex MD, and Twitter at @DrCastellanos.
Will having sex on your period will it make your relationship stronger with the man your having sex with or will it make the man walk away from you .
There are many things that go into making a relationship stronger or not. For your question, it depends on many factors of the relationship and your partner’s preferences. Maybe you could get more information speaking to your partner about it.
Fortunately for me, my first lover did not treat period sex as if it was some taboo thing. I on the other hand, had a little trepidation. His open attitude put me at ease, and to this day I’ve always felt comfortable getting frisky at that time of the month. You are correct, it does take a little bit of planning. But when the mood hits, I’d rather have some fun than worry about a little inconvenience.
I’ve never had period sex before, it always just seem really wrong, gross and unclean. every woman’s body is so different on their period, some like myself ,bleed heavy and have huge blood clots. how can one expect a man to deal with that. some men are already so turned off by the period itself. how does a woman that might wanna try it, even open up to her partner about that ? Is it fair to ask our partners to be intimate with us at a time, when we are at our most gross ? and If our partner declines us, can we really blame him ?
Can you get pregnant with period sex? Stupid question I know but just to be sure…
Yes, it’s possible, especially if a woman does not have regular cycles.
i Have a quick question? i have sex with my gf during her 2nd day menstruation. but the thing is when im inside her. she doesnt feel pleasure? how does it possible? is there something wrong?? pls do help. thanks
I couldn’t tell you if there is something wrong. You need to ask her what she feels. Sometimes, women are more self-conscious around their period, or uncomfortable if they have cramps. Either of these will detract from pleasure in the moment.
I just spent a weekend with a girlfriend in her period. I’ve never had a lover who went so far at the edge of human tolerance for pleasure – pain with a range of cathartic like crying emotions during her climax. She became like a pure animal transversed by deep transforming catalityc human emotions – realizations. I was dumbfounded seeing the woman capacity for extasis, it was not just physical, was also emotional. My orgasm is like a kid’s toy against an alien multidimensional spacecraft compared to hers. I’m just humbled.
me as a young Marine earned what was called there Red Wings, by eating a women’s pussy while she was on her period! later as I was married, I would continue to perform oral sex on my wife, which I love to do! but she would try to refraim from during her period. tho I didn’t have a problem with it, she felt it was dirty! I take great care and pleasure in eating my wife’s pussy, and ass and doing the best I can to make her come, yet she still tells me I’m too big and has a hard time taking me, only let me have her ass once!
When I was in my teens, I had a long time teen girl friend starting from when she was 13. During her periods she had fairly horrendus cramps – tried everything: aspirin, Midol, heat, etc — but the only thing that worked was to have full throttle sex. After 45 minutes of vaginal [and sometimes anal] sex all the cramps went away. She would call me up and ask me to come over – sometimes several times during a 24 hr period. For a period of years, we both looked forward to having her periods so that we could “treat” her cramps in the only way that worked. It calmed and relaxed her – the more rigorous the sex, the better it worked..My bonus was to be able to lick her after sex. Unfortunately, in my 20’s I ended up marrying a woman who thought periods were “disgusting” and “filthy” and was absolutely turned off about even the thought of having sexual contact during her period. We finally separated after we had two children because she said that there was no further point in having sex, so we didn’t “need to bother with THAT anymore”.