4 Reasons a Woman Should Have an Orgasm Every Day
Although I believe that the goal of sexual relationships is connection and mutual pleasure, I also believe that there is great power in having orgasms. Women, in particular, benefit from making orgasms a priority in their life. Not only do orgasms add to their pleasure and vitality, orgasms increase the flow of creative energy and add to overall physical health.
Are orgasms good for you?
Studies have found that orgasms are really the only time that women’s brains are able to experience deep relaxation. In fact, when a woman has an orgasm, her brain is able to quiet down to levels matched only by transcendental meditation. Here are some of the benefits of orgasms for women:
1. Orgasms help balance your hormones.
Orgasms help give a boost of testosterone and estrogen for women. They also help decrease stress which keeps cortisol levels in check. When women have orgasms, they are more able to take charge of their sexuality and tend to be more confident and positive in their sexual relationships. This makes for less stress and more enjoyment with your partner as you get your blood flowing with your sexual relationship.
2. Orgasms give a boost of oxytocin.
Everyone has touted oxytocin as the hormone of bonding. The reason why this happens is because oxytocin helps reinforce all those connections that we feel are beneficial for our social circle, which includes the sexual partner with whom you may have just experienced an orgasm. Oxytocin has also been found to regenerate muscle tissue, literally making you younger.
3. Orgasms help you feel alive.
With orgasm, not only do women have a full-body wave of ecstasy, but they also engage their energy all over their body connecting them to their source of power and vitality. Too often in our society, women are pushed to look outward for their self-worth and their sense of purpose in our culture. Orgasms help a woman understand her true power and beauty that exists within her because of her feminine energy, regardless of her age. Remember that women are also capable of multiple orgasms with a little to no refractory period. Here we see the life energy of women reflected in their sexual energy, which should be celebrated often.
4. Orgasms tune you into your sexual power.
The truth is that orgasm mobilizes an energy that you would not normally have access to otherwise. Orgasms enhance a woman’s creativity which can translate into a world of difference, not only in her problem solving, but in her life trajectory as well. Her relationship is energized by her orgasm, and it becomes a fountain of joy and energy for her.
Dr. Castellanos is a psychiatrist specializing in sex therapy for over 25 years, including treatment with bio-identical hormones, and functional medicine consultations. You can follow her on Instagram at thesexmd, Facebook at The Sex MD, and X at @DrCastellanos.
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Is it normal for women to masterbate daily or to want to? Is it normal to want to touch yourself? Also does it turn a man on to do this in front of him or will he think it’s a turn off? If your partner doesnt have a sex drive, is it ok to just please urself?
Lisa – great questions! Yes, I believe that it is normal. And if a person isn’t getting regular sexual activity, it’s actually important to masturbate to keep good blood flow to the genitals, to keep those nerve endings sensitized, and keep the connection between physiological arousal and mental thoughts about sex. I think that it is part of nurturing your sexual self.
As far as masturbating in front of a partner, many people find this to be very sexy and learn to incorporate it into their sexual relationship. The more activities you have to choose from, the more variety you can have. This would be a great topic of conversation to have with your partner to see if he would find it a turn on or not (I can’t really speak for him). If you bring it up with an attitude of curiosity rather than criticism, it may also open a wonderful door about sexual arousal and sexual desire between you both.
I believe in all of it !
Yes I find that satisfying a woman into multiples always makes me feel so good and making a woman feel good,as they say happy wife,happy life..take good care of your woman in every way,whether it be emotional,physical,intellectual or spiritual,and in turn she will love you back forever 😉
Hi there! I’m new to having orgasms, I just had one a few days ago, a couple weeks after my 30th birthday. I e always got off but never had the big one. So my question may seem silly but, now that I’ve had one, I understandably would like to have them all the time. Does it ever get old? I mean can I ruin special experiences by making it an everyday thing for myself? I just started having them so I’m definitely not going to stop for a while lol thanks!
Just keep having them and see. Most people never stop.:)
My partner has no sex drive and he’s only 33. I have made suggestions and all have been ignored. We have been together for 3 years and I have had 1 good memorable orgasm in the last 2 years. I fully participate in foreplay, he refuses. So pretty much he gets his EVERY time. I’m so bitter and angry that it has completely changed how I look at him. I can’t be affectionate with someone who I’m 100% committed to but he never cares to take care of my needs. Masterbating only helped for so long. That isn’t fun or fulfilling anymore. I’m at a loss.
It sounds like you need to have sex therapy and relationship counseling. A relationship will not sustain such resentment and exist healthily and happily. I hope that you seek therapy right away.
I organsm. Everyday for 4 tym is it OK??
Why not?
I love to please my self by rubbing my clit everyday 5-6 tyms
Is der any harm by doing tht
As long as you are not making yourself irritated or sore, or creating physical damage or discomfort, it is usually fine.
I do almost daily helps relax me
Any time I see the world “women should,” the red flag goes up. It is not necessary to climax every time in order to achieve all the benefits listed. Sexual stimulation without climaxing, especially when consciously directing the energy to circulate through the body. can create a healing action in all the organs and can even produce more salutory benefits than an orgasm. There are techniques for doing this effectively that can be learned.
Thank you for pointing that out. Yes, this is true. There are benefits to be had either way – but dependent on how a person utilizes that experience and channels that energy. Obviously, some people use orgasm in a very unhealthy and energetically exhausting way, which is not desirable.
My fiance and father of my 2 children barely has sex with me. There’s always an excuse; he’s tired, his back hurts, and (My favorite one) I’m currently at my sexual peak and his was in his early 20s ( we are both 30). There are other excuses, but these are the most used ones. We have sex maybe 3 times a month. Sometimes only once a month. I’ve talked to him about it and am at my witts end. I’ve told him that if we increase our sexual activity together that he would end up wanting it more often. I have made suggestions to him on things we could try to spice things up. It’s to the point that I’m unhappy and feel unattractive, even though he says he is attracted to me. Masturbating isn’t enough. I crave him touching me and kissing me all over. Even when we do have sex, it’s as if he thinks it’s a job. How can I fix my sexual relationship with the man that I love? Is it even possible for a 30 year old man to not be interested in sex at All? Also, I should mention that he has no problem with pleasuring himself. Please help if you can. Any advice would be appreciated.
Victoria – there is no reason for a 30 yr old man to have no libido. That is not normal. Perhaps it’s time you both see a sex therapist together? There are probably other issues there. He should also get a physical and make sure there is no metabolic reason for his drop in sex drive.
Is it bad to masterbate at least 3-4 times a day? Can it damage your eggs or like anything?
You cannot damage your eggs by masturbating.
is the same feeling of masterbution during sex with partner?
Masturbation can vary quite a bit. Sometime, it can be more intense than with a partner. Some women cannot orgasm with a partner but do just fine when they masturbate – this points to a component of anxiety or distraction when with a partner. And sometimes with a partner is more intense. There are no hard and fast rules because there is so much variation.
My partner only like one position and watch porn while having sex. I feel he’s not consentrating on me. I’ve allowed it so long and think he can not have sex without porn being on.
Sounds like you would like this to be different. Have you spoken with him about it?
Thank you for this!
My husband want me to have and Orgasm every time we sex . Maybe three times a day. But I can’t always get one.
Orgasms can be inhibited by anxiety or thoughts that distract from getting lost in sexy thoughts. The best tack for someone to take is to focus on their own pleasure and eroticism.
If your making love 3 times a day it can be hard to reach an orgasm every time as depending on how rigorous your sex is you can become over sensitised. Other factors I find that inhibit me are what time of my cycle I am in, being tired, over thinking during sex (I need to cum, why isn’t it working), thinking about other things like what to cook for dinner, also insecurities can play thru to like not liking how my body looks in a certain position, noticing my stretch marks or worrying if my breath is bad in the morning!!
Another obstacle could be your partner, maybe he’s not pushing your buttons in the correct order or touching you how you need to be touched so open communication as to what you like is vital. The best way to do it is as loving as possible because some people get a little upset if there told straight off the bat there not doing it right!! I would suggest something along the lines of ‘I really love it when you tease me softly here’ and show your partner where.
Don’t worry if you don’t climax every time, when you do climax think about the things that helped it happen and use them as a guideline for what works. Hope some of this helps
Sexual satisfaction every day is a necessity for me. I have suffered from depression since I was 14 and the most effective and natural way for me to combat it is thru exercise and orgasm. I get very down, frustrated and angry and can only go a week max without either. Any longer and my moods become intolerable. I love sex and could not live without it.