“Masturbate? Who me?” “No, I don’t do that anymore.” “I don’t need to do that now.” Or better yet: “I never did that!”

I am here to say that it doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship or not, masturbation is not only pleasurable, but it’s healthy and it’s part of a balanced sex life. First of all, your sexuality belongs to you. So even if you have a partner, you should never give up control of your sexuality. Ultimately, you are responsible for your own pleasure and your own happiness. The sooner you know that, the sooner you can share that happiness with somebody else. When you have a partner, you won’t always be on the same page as them, or won’t always be in the same mood as them, or you won’t always have the same energy as them. But if you are in charge of your own sexuality, masturbation can help bridge those gaps. And masturbation doesn’t have to be something you do by yourself. Maybe your partner can watch? Maybe they’ll get so turned on watching you, they’ll want to join in? Or maybe they can just get pleasure from knowing that you’re getting off without any pressure on them. All of you who have been in long term relationships know that it is impossible to always be in sync with our partners all the time.

If you have never spoken to your partner about masturbation, that’s the first step. Once you have open communication about different ways to have pleasure, you can bring up the topic of masturbation. Remember, doing it on your own is ok too. The main word here is balance. If it is not used to avoid your partner, or done compulsively, it is a natural part of your sex life that can actually enhance your sex life.

For those individuals without a partner, masturbation might make up the entirety of your sex life. Don’t rationalize to yourself that you don’t need it or that you don’t want it. Both our body and our brain run on the principle of ‘use it or lose it.’ Masturbation not only gives us pleasure, but it also makes us feel alive. Orgasms release chemicals in our brain that help us feel more relaxed, happier, and more secure. Besides that, masturbation increases blood flow to our genitals which is important in maintaining sexual functioning over time. And every time you have an orgasm, it helps maintain tone in your PC muscles that help women keep continent after menopause or childbirth, and help men have stronger erections and ejaculation. So don’t forget to give yourself a hand now and then!

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